9 Verses That Encourage Me To Be A Better Wife
Marriage can be agonizing! But, it doesn’t have to be. God never intended for you to suffer so in your marriage. I get it though. Time and time again you are let down and disappointed in your spouse. He hurts your feelings, he places the marriage on the back burner, or just plain doesn’t love you the same. He snaps at you over the silliest of things; he assumes your intentions are malicious and responds as though you were the very enemy trying to devour him.
Tough stuff to endure. Often, I have shut down in situations like this towards my husband, and it has only made things worse. So what is one to do in such a dismal situation? Remember Gods promises and don’t allow your spouse’s behavior to dictate how you feel and respond day to day. I am so guilty of flying off the handle due to my husband’s behavior at times. It has only proven to make things worse for my family and me. I decided to pray through scripture and ask God to show me how to fight through those bad days. We all have them! But, when they are tearing apart your marriage, it’s time to take action.
Time to take action!
God has been working on my heart sharing with me what a Godly woman resembles. When I think of Sarah and Abraham, I think of a woman of honor and profound respect. I don’t picture her chucking a wet washcloth at her husband’s head when she’s frustrated. Yup, I’m guilty! God has asked me to soften my heart towards my husband. To simply calm down. He’s got this, but not with my constant calamity I throw into the mix of things. He knows that I have every reason to feel hurt and pain and anger. But he does not want me to sin out of my anger. He wants my behavior to humble my husband and glorify Him. Crap! So I can’t respond to my husband’s mistakes? Of course, but in a godly manner.
You see, I have hurt my husband just as much. We are both imperfect human beings, and we will, from time to time hurt one another. Do we mean to cause pain and hurt, absolutely not. But, we are human, and our first response is to respond seeking our needs first.
We Should Be leading people to Christ!
So let me share with you the verses that I am reading and praying through that are helping me to be a better wife, woman, and godly example to my family and the onlookers of our life. You see, people should be looking at our marriage and family saying, “That’s what Christ looks like?” “That’s what I want!” We should be leading people to Christ through our family instead of making a mockery of Christ.
9 Verses That Have Encouraged Me To Be A Better Wife
James 1 2-8
2 Consider it pure joy, my brothers, and sisters, whenever you face trials of many kinds, 3 because you know that the testing of your faith produces perseverance. 4 Let perseverance finish its work so that you may be mature and complete, not lacking anything. 5 If any of you lacks wisdom, you should ask God, who gives generously to all without finding fault, and it will be given to you. 6 But when you ask, you must believe and not doubt, because the one who doubts is like a wave of the sea, blown and tossed by the wind. 7 That person should not expect to receive anything from the Lord. 8 Such a person is double-minded and unstable in all they do. (NIV)
1 Peter 3:1-6
3 Wives, in the same way, submit yourselves to your own husbands so that, if any of them do not believe the word, they may be won over without words by the behavior of their wives, 2 when they see the purity and reverence of your lives. 3 Your beauty should not come from outward adornments, such as elaborate hairstyles and the wearing of gold jewelry or fine clothes. 4 Rather, it should be that of your inner self, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is of great worth in God’s sight.5 For this is the way the holy women of the past who put their hope in God used to adorn themselves. They submitted themselves to their own husbands, 6 like Sarah, who obeyed Abraham and called him her lord.You are her daughters if you do what is right and do not give way to fear. (NIV)
19 Better to live in a desert than with a quarrelsome and nagging wife. (NIV)
3 A person’s own folly leads to their ruin, yet their heart rages against the Lord. (NIV)
14 The wise woman builds her house, but with her own hands the foolish one tears hers down. (NIV)
16 A kindhearted woman gains honor, but ruthless men gain only wealth. (NIV)
1 Timothy 3:11
11 In the same way, the women are to be worthy of respect, not malicious talkers but temperate and trustworthy in everything. (NIV)
3 Likewise, teach the older women to be reverent in the way they live, not to be slanderers or addicted to much wine, but to teach what is good. (NIV)
22 Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands as you do to the Lord. (NIV)
I don’t know about you, but each of these scriptures convict my heart and encourage me to do better. My behavior does not always, even much of the time, resemble this woman of honor and respect God commands of us. When I am grumbling over my husband to anyone that will listen and throw my marriage to the curb, I am slapping God in the face and choosing to be a defiant and disobedient child of God.
It’s time for a spiritual time out! Pray for God to transform your heart. Start focusing on whether your behavior is worthy of honor and respect. If it’s not, then your behavior is no different from that of your spouse. God wishes us to forgive and help, not hate and devour. I know, powerful words that at times seem impossible. But you’re doing it to glorify God and strengthen your personal relationship with Christ. Through all of this, He will work on your husband. He promises! So it’s time to let go of the control, and let God.