5 Ways to “MOM” When You Just Want To Cry
Motherhood is such a beautiful experience, and I wouldn’t change it for the world. But I’m not going to lie; it’s a struggle. Any mother that tells you differently is a liar! I don’t know of any other job that involves any individual to wear as many hats as a mom does. WE ARE SUPERSTARS! In fact, I just placed my chauffeur hat on the hook and am now grabbing for my chef hat. Well, after I talk with you guys!
A moms job is never done…….
Recently, my family hit a huge bump in this twisting and turning road of life. To say I am an emotional wreck is an understatement. I am blinking out tears that are welling up, like a boss. But truth be told, I can’t stop crying. It’s a very overwhelming time for us right now, and I’m sure you have experienced something like this before, too! It’s tough to put on a smile for your kids and go about your day pretending like your heart hasn’t been crushed into a million pieces. Don’t get me wrong; I am not ashamed to cry in front of my kids. Life happens, and it’s okay that your kids see that mommy is human and the world hurts sometimes.
But, how do I go on and “mom” when I just want to bury my head in a pillow and cry it out, cry some more, and then continue to cry. How easy it is, to slip into a deep sadness if I were to allow it to overtake me.
Well, let me share with you how I stay “SOMEWHAT” sane, and balanced, while I “mom” and struggle with a deep emotional pain. It’s working and helping me to see the light at the end of this awful road.
5 Ways to “MOM” When You Just Want To Cry
1. Go Ahead And Cry It Out
Do it, right now! Have that big ugly cry; you need to have. Go away from the kids; this could get ugly, stand in the closet if you must, and cry. You need to. Just let it out and let the pain that is constantly swelling on the surface, you’re always fighting to bury, OUT! Our bodies were made to experience emotion and we need to play it out. Now, splash some water on your face, wipe your eye’s, take a deep breath, look at yourself in the mirror and say, “I’ve got this!”
2. Sit Down With The Kids And Have A Talk
Kids always know when something is going on. Make them feel important enough to share with them that mommy is sad. They don’t need the details, but letting them know that mommy is sad, will take you off the hook of having to pretend that you’re in a super-duper mood. When my ten years old daughter see the glossy, watery eyes and asks what’s wrong, I tell her. I tell her the mommy is just sad, but I promise her that my sadness is just for a short time and that I love her so much and I’m not sad with her at all. This helps her to know that mommy is struggling, but not with anything she has done and it will be a matter of time that I am good to go. So go ahead and be honest. (Spare them the gory details.)
3. Find A Good Ear To Talk Off
Whether it be your husband, best friend or mother, whoever you choose, just talk it out. Let the kids play outside in a safe environment and chat with your friend and continue to process through your emotions. Letting them stay built up will only continue the “swelling factor.” If you’re in need of help with something and need to seek advice, find good Godly counsel that will help to resolve the matter in a wise, and helpful manner. It is never fruitful to seek counsel from someone that will only take your side and possibly not provide the best advice. So be cautious in who you pick to chat with.
4. Take Your Stinking Thinking Captive
It is super easy to allow a tense situation to get out of hand by allowing your thoughts to spin out of control. Let me tell you right now, WALK AWAY FROM THE STINKING THINKING NOW!!!! This kind of thinking will make matters worse, emotions uncontrollable, and the waterworks will flood your life. Stay focused on the truth. Don’t think about the what if’s, the future, how things could be different, just take one day at a time and process each day with pure and just thoughts. I lean on scripture when I feel myself allowing stinking thinking to set in:
Philippians 4:8, and now, dear brothers and sisters, one final thing. Fix your thoughts on what is true, and honorable, and right, and pure, and lovely, and admirable. Think about things that are excellent and worthy of praise.
5. Take All Your Emotions To God
God can move mountains! He knows what tomorrow will bring. Stay calm and give it over to God. Let Him take control. Tell Him that you’re hurting and can’t take the sadness anymore. That, right now you don’t know how to pray because the emotions are blocking all rational thoughts. Wait on Him to show you the next step. Place yourself in His word (Bible), and seek rest in His arms.
A bit of encouragement: All things shall pass. You’ve got this, and you will be okay. Keep taking deep breaths, stay close to the ones that make you feel good and laugh. Get some good exercise, walk with the kids, keep your body moving. This really help’s with “happy hormones” being released and helping you to feel better. Do things that will help keep your mind preoccupied from the current stress you’re experiencing. Keep taking it all to God!
No temptation has overtaken you except what is common to mankind. And God is faithful; he will not let you be tempted beyond what you can bear. But when you are tempted, he will also provide a way out so that you can endure it. 1 Corinthians 10-13